How “to be happy”

We have several goals in our life. Perhaps “to be happy” is also one of the life goals for many of us. But, unfortunately, pressure in study and work makes happiness a difficult matter for many people. There is a saying, “Happiness is determined more by our minds than by our circumstances”. So, why don’t we change our mind towards a happier life?

Below are some tips for you to cheer up your life:

1. Make happiness a priority.

If happiness is not at the top of your list then other things will take precedence. If other things take precedence, they may well interfere with your efforts to feel good.

2. Make plans to be happy and set happy goals.

Just like in any other life domain, the successful pursuit of happiness requires planning. A planning also requires effective goal setting. And don’t forget to make sure your goals are SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and timed).

3. Do things that make you happy.

Although this sounds obvious, many people simply forget to do things from which they gain pleasure. And do them as often as possible.

4. Set yourself tasks from which you’ll gain satisfaction.

As well as pleasure and enjoyment, satisfaction is also an important part of happiness. So make sure that when you’re planning your tasks and activities you include things that might not be fun, but from which you’ll gain a sense of achievement.

5. Identify where your strengths lie and utilize your strengths.

Know where your faults and weaknesses are to avoid problems. Know where your strengths lie to be really happy and to succeed in life.

6. Be grateful and appreciate what you have.

We all have many choices in life one of which is whether to focus on all the things we don’t have (of which there might be many), or to focus on all the things we do have. There’s no doubt, that gratitude and appreciation will significantly increase your chances of experiencing happiness.

7. Learn to like and ideally to love yourself.

We must love before we can be loved. To love others and to be loved by others is a key component of happiness.

8. Invest time and energy in to your key relationships.

Happy people spend more time working on and in their relationships. Happy people tend to be more supportive of other people in their life. Happy people are more generous and altruistic.

9. Weed out unhelpful thoughts and plant happier, optimistic thoughts.

Learn first to identify your thoughts and then begin to challenge those that are negative and unhelpful and then develop more positive, optimistic ones. This is essentially a skill, and like any other skill becomes easier and more effective with practice.

10. Live a healthy life.

Eat well and keep active. Exercise regularly. Although not impossible, it’s difficult to be happy if you’re constantly sick and not very healthy.

Last but not least: Make happiness an integral part of your life.

Develop happiness routines and make them a part of your everyday living. Remind yourself however you can to do what you need to do and reward yourself as often as possible for doing what you’ve done.

WHAT YOU NEED TO GET THROUGH THE PROCESS

To get from your start , which we have defined as the taking of control – to your destination , which is the achievement of a desire – you need only two things:

1. A clear idea of what you want. In this process , you must send messages to your subconscious mind. Be advised: the subconscious mind does not respond to fuzzy pictures. The subconscious respond to sharp , clear , specific ideas. Just saying to your self , “I want a lot of money,” isn’t good enough. You must say exactly how much. Nor is it enough to say , “I want to move to a warm climate.” The world has many warm climates. Say exactly where you want to move. It’s helpful to write down what you want in words which are as specific as you can make them. If you’re not sure what you want , state very clearly your intention to discover exactly what you desire in a specific area of your life , by a certain point in time.


2. Commitment. This like willingness , is an attitude. It’s a feeling of confidence that , whatever happens , you’ll continue to pursue what you want. It’s not a self – imposed promise or an obligation. Rather , it’s a firm belief that you want is so desirable and so important , in the end , it’ll be worth doing whatever you must do to get it.

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WHERE IT STARTS: WITH YOU

To get what you want , you must recognize something which at first may be difficult , even painful to look at. You must recognize that you alone are the source of all the condition and situations in your life. You must recognize that whatever your world looks like right now , you alone have caused it to look that way. The state of your health , your finances , your personal relationships, your professional life – all of it is yours and no one else’s.

This is difficult for many people to swallow. “I can’t help it if I was born poor,” they claim. That might be , but at birth , were you condemned to stay poor ?

“ A black person has all the cards stacked against him,” they say. That might be , but how many black Ph.D’s are there? How many black mayors and millionaires ?

Look carefully at any situation in your life , be honest about it , and I guarantee you will eventually see that , either consciously or unconsciously , you set it up to be that way. Whether you’re aware of it or not , you’ve allowed the situation to remain , even though you’re had the ability to change it all along.

When you recognize , once and for all , that you are the source of everything which happens in your life , you unleash a powerful force. Once you see that everything which exists for you is your creation and no one else’s , then you will exist in the future is your creation also.

This recognition of yourself as the source puts you , consciously into the driver’s seat – a place you’ve been all along , though perhaps unconsciously.

As long as look , at the situation and say , “I didn’t create this,” you’re letting the situation remain beyond your control. You’re saying there’s nothing you can do about it, that it must remain so forever. But as soon as you say , “I created this,” you make it own. You accept responsibility for it. When your accept responsibility for it , you’re then ready to assume responsibility fir changing it . You thus take control of your life .

Once again , the steps are :
- accept responsibility for creating thing the way they are
- assume responsibility for changing them ,
- take control

Note that none of the above require any physical action on your part. They are shifts in your attitude , your mental set. Together they constitute the vital , crucial beginning of an entirely new approach to life. An approach in which you are the cause of what happens.

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THE KEY : WILLINGNESS

This leads right back to the original principle , which says: to get what you want , you must be willing to do whatever it takes to get it. The essence of the principle – the key to it – is the idea of willingness. By way of the definition , willingness is a frame of mind which is open to every possible demand , without judgment , reservation or refusal.

As with happiness , you don’t have to do anything to achieve willingness. It’s a frame of mind . You just have to be willing. There’s no process involved in getting it. You get it by having it.

Because willingness is an open frame of mind , it has great power , almost magical power. In Western cultures , we’re skeptical of the thing which aren’t concrete , observable and measurable. We scoff at words like “magical” ,”mystical” or “metaphysical” .If you’re the skeptical type , I ask that you hold off rejecting such ideas until you finish reading this article. It’s a small price to pay for what will ultimately be a great reward.